In the Paris Jewish community, more women than men are recalcitrant spouses.

May 16, 2014

Englishcouple-falling-in-angerI just saw a letter from the lay president of the Paris consistoir (umbrella organization of the Jewish community, which operates the city wide subsidiary institutions, like the beis din), where Mr. Joël Mergui, the lay president, provides statistics for gittin (religious divorces) and for contentious divorce cases at the beis din. They write more than 400 gittin a year. Of those, last year there were 12 men and 16 women who did not present themselves easily or at all before the beis din, requiring further action. Note the surprising larger number of women refusing to cooperate with the beis din. It’s not just newsworthy because of the breakdown of men vs. women, it’s also about the proportion of problem cases. Out of 400, between 16 and 28 demanded extra attention.

The letter was published as part of their weekly newsletter, downloadable here. Scroll down to “Pour une médiation sereine au service des couples.” Read the rest of this entry »


Another Reason for More Widespread Use of Halakhic Prenups

November 5, 2013

EnglishOLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERASo lots of people have read and are commenting on a sad New York Post article about Gital Dodelson’s struggle over the last three years to obtain a get (Jewish religious divorce). That story shows that in our Western societies, where the power of beis din is limited to mediation and arbitration, it is a mightily good idea to further the use of halakhic prenups that aim to prevent many such cases of igun (“chaining” a woman, by her husband who refuses to grant her a get even though their relationship is essentially over). Evidently, all Orthodox rabbis would do well to promote the use of such prenups, be they from the Modern Orthodox or from the Ultra Orthodox communities. Read the rest of this entry »